Personal Growth | Vision and Planning
Career and Business
Change | Reinvention
Creating Balance | Managing Complexity | Building Resilience
Health and Wellness
Retirement | Second Act | FIRE
Wealth and Legacy
Philosophical and Spiritual
Virtual Appointments or F2F with Social Distance Safe Practices
Consider three scenarios or "subject positions" that many highly effective professionals, entrepreneurs - and possibly you - may find yourself in:
1) Goal-oriented achiever, but... Maybe you are very sure of your goals, know exactly what you want to be doing and where you want to be in 5 or 10 or 15 years... Maybe there is a single issue or goal that you know is top priority in your life right now. But you need help getting started, staying the course, navigating obstacles, managing all other factors in your life while sustaining and assessing your progress...
... I have been there...
2) Overwhelmed... or overworked busy professional... Perhaps right now you face a very specific life transition or life decision - a choice, a crisis, a loss of some kind has occurred... Or maybe you have a cluster of dilemmas, life issues, crises and tough decisions piling up... Life feels out of balance... It's not just one issue it is a bunch of issues. There are periods of overwhelm or just exhaustion... Success can have a price... Maybe you are overworked, overstressed, trying to please so many others. Maybe you are "done with the bullshit" and wisely want to avoid total burnout...
... I have been there...
3) Well but wondering... Possibly you are among those who have achieved quite a bit toward your career and life goals... all is "on track"... you have "made it" to a great degree. But you find yourself not sure of what is next... Nothing is "wrong" in your life yet you feel vaguely discontent, unsatisfied, unsure whether you will continue in the current direction. Perhaps you feel a need to make a change, take a leap... But why? What change or leap would that be? What is the path forward? Is this "it" as they say? You find yourself in an open, exploratory, somewhat uncharted phase of your life journey...
... I have been there...
If any of the above scenarios resonate with where you are, I can almost guarantee you will benefit from the realistic perspective and accountability checks from a professional integrative life coach who can listen, give objective feedback, context and guidance.
The above are just 3 of a limitless set of personae or subject-positions. Your particular subject-position is unique to you. Integrative Life Coaching focuses entirely on your unique subject-position, and helps you become fully aware of the possibilities and potentials available to you.
My own journey is a story of continuous learning, critical thinking, adaptation, hard work, and repeated reinvention - driven sometimes by necessity, sometimes by choice, sometimes a mix of both. Along the way I have had to re-explore and re-assess purpose, goals and plans in relation to the things that make me and my family happy.
I have had to become very good at envisioning realistic goals for fulfillment and satisfaction, charting a path to attaining those goals, navigating obstacles, assessing risks and opportunities... And when I and my family have manifested and attained our goals, making sure to savor that success... And then figure out what may be next...! At this juncture, among the things that are next is giving back by coaching select clients using an integrative and holistic approach...!
Where are you on your life journey? What is top of mind for addressing right now? Where do you want to be in 2, 5, 10, 15 or 20 years? What are the hard questions that need answering to get you where you want to be?
People often think the best sources of advice and coaching will be peers and advisors in business or those who know them best - close friends and family. Sometimes that's true. Sometimes that works.
But sometimes business colleagues, family and close friends know you too well and you know them too well. They have heard all of your material before. And you have heard all of their material. Patterns are very set. Habits of thought and action are reinforced and enabled. Colleagues, friends and family can give quite a bit of coaching and it's usually free... The price is right.... But is it effective? Is it providing what you really need?
Sometimes you have questions to discuss or deliberate that you would rather not share with family or friends. You would like confidentiality and privacy. Maybe you don't want family or close friends in on your deepest personal struggles and decisions right now. You need independent counsel free from judgement, assumptions, jumping to conclusions, vested interests and so forth.
Sometimes you need a highly experienced, trained independent-minded person who is not a colleague, close friend or family member, just for a little while, to provide deep listening and thoughtful objective feedback... and then of course factor this in along with the rest of your support network.
"Coaches" and "Life Coaches" are a dime a dozen. The bar is very low... Most have no training. Some have taken courses and earned a coaching certificate such as ICF but may lack depth or diversity of experience. Most have zero training in health and wellness, a critical area of life for everyone these days, even before the pandemic.
Scope and Approach: Even the best coaches usually only coach you on one or two issues mostly to do with career and managing business goals and relationships... Some won't even take you on unless you have your Purpose, Passion and Goals already well defined, or quickly defined within the first session or two.
Many coaches operate from standard approaches and templates derived from mainstream coaching academies and self-help industry gurus. Most don't recognize that Purpose or Passion are often not the primary pain points for many busy professionals... They likely won't know or will fail to mention the 5 alternatives to Purpose or Passion that can be inspiring drivers of a happy or contented life... and which could be better for your needs and issues right now.
Such coaches may be helpful as career or executive coaches but may not be fully capable as "Life Coaches" even if they insist on using that term...
Integrative Life Coaching means coaching the whole person, the whole life, all their life issues, not just a single pie-slice such as Work or Career... or Weight Loss or Personal Fitness... Integrative Life Coaching holistically addresses all issues and dimensions of the client's very individual situation and journey across the full 360 degrees of the Circle of Life. Coach and client address the whole enchilada...!
Integrative Life Coaching thus comprises every facet of life. These can be listed in 6 or 8 or 12 or even more categories or areas of focus. For rapid understanding think of all life issues grouped in these six broad categories, as follows:
1) Work and Career / Business
2) Family, Friends, Relationships, Social Life, Intimacy, Love
3) Health and Wellness - movement, nutrition, rest, sleep, leisure, self-care
4) Economic Wellbeing - financial; home and hearth; savings; wealth
5) Personal Development - learning, skills, growth, attitude, mindset
6) Spiritual and Philosophical - reflection, meaning, values, faith, care of the soul
How are you doing in each of these areas? Which area needs focus right now? What other areas are related? We start with some assessment tools to help you see how you are doing in these six areas. Some busy professionals find that things are going very well in one or more, but poorly or questionably in others. Some start their coaching with a goal in work or career, and then soon realize they need coaching in the other areas... it's all just part of the journey.
There is the official curriculum of life and how to get along in the world, what you are supposed to want to do... And then there is what I call the hidden curriculum. In fact there are many hidden curricula in life. Mainstream coaches mostly deal only with the official curriculum. That's fine and we can work on that all day long. However, by working with me you will also have access to the hidden curriculum of life...
Living by the script... following the recipe... Fitting In: Perhaps you are (quite understandably) trying to live according to the standard scripts and templates as you have received these. Nothing wrong with that. All you ask is to live up to the typical scenario that has been painted in our society for good people to work hard and achieve personal and family success and happiness. You are trying to fit in. You are trying to achieve goals that have been taught or modeled during your upbringing, in the media, at work, and whenever you look at others who seem "successful" by those standards... I can help you be more successful with such goals if that is best for you.
Write your own script, your own recipe... Fitting Out: Perhaps you feel you don't fit in, you haven't been fitting in, don't really want to fit in. You may have long suspected (or now suddenly realize) that the standard scripts and templates for many things in life will not work for you, or your family. And so, you may need to focus on strategies for "fitting out" rather than fitting in. I can help you with that exploration and discovery so that you define your own success and contentment quite independent of the standard scripts or formulas or templates for life that the dominant narratives put forth.
And of course it's rarely black and white. Most of us do quite a bit of fitting in even as we fit out in many ways... Integrative Life Coaching can help you become more aware of the "hidden curriculum" in your life and all around us, empowering you with agency and mindful awareness in deciding what really matters in life planning and decisions.
Background: profiles on my consulting site and on Linkedin:
Education, Learning, Teaching: I earned a BA in humanities from Yale University, and an MA in cultural studies and critical theory from from Duke University. I am deeply educated and knowledgable about major life areas such as ancient and modern history, anthropology, comparative religion, philosophy, political philosophy, psychology as well as biology and sciences. I have made learning and education a life's work across multiple disciplines. Before moving from academia to industry I taught deep reading, critical thinking, cultural studies and communications at three universities.
Corporate Learning, Education, Design Innovation: In my commercial career I have worked at high performing technology companies from startup to IPO to very large corporations mostly in human performance, skilling, training and online services. I'm an inventor and product innovator with multiple patents in renewable energy technology. I started and led a profitable P&L business unit at a major technology company, building the worldwide operation to $90 million with over 150 employees and contractors and a large network of partners over 9 years. At this and other companies over two decades in corporate executive roles I completed numerous programs and certificates in management, executive leadership development, team coaching and facilitation, organization development, human systems, and high performing individuals and teams.
Performance, Coaching and Wellness: I am SHRM-SCP certified by the Society for Human Resource Management. I completed a year-long program of education, training and workshops at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. I completed the program of education, workshops and practicums in Integrative Health and Wellness at Duke University Integrative Medicine, graduating with a certificate as an Integrative Health and Wellness Coach. Additionally, I have taken and passed the Duke IM certification and am certified by Duke Integrative Medicine as a Certified Integrative Health and Wellness Coach.
Usual and Unusual Jobs: awhile back there was a FB challenge going around to list all one's jobs and gigs other than what one shows on Linkedin or bio profiles. Here in no particular order are some of my other roles:
Dining hall worker and foodservice union member
Industrial photographer and darkroom technician
Camp counselor at a summer camp
Ghost writer for a mad scientist professor
Psychiatric ward staff attendant
Au pair in Paris for the family of a French politician
Construction worker (non-union quota at union site) - rough carpentry, framing
Speechwriter for Provost of a major university
Gardener / landscaper
Law firm go-fer
Training developer for quality control at a major semiconductor manufacturer
Asset logger/tagger for a large institution
Writer-historian for a city neighborhood development office
Editorial assistant in a publishing house
Marketing for a sub-sea technology company
Intern at the Associated Press
Fundraising campaign worker for a major university
Bartender in a theatre-district restaurant
3 months (4 - 6 sessions)
6 months (8 - 12 sessions)
3 month package minimum. Fees are sliding scale.
Format: video teleconference sessions, 1 to 2 hours
Includes: email, text and phone support; assessments, tools, handouts, resources.
Virtual Appointments or F2F with Social Distance Safe Practices
"I highly recommend Pete for overall life and health coaching. He’s present with his clients, allowing them the space to be fully heard and understood. Coaching with Pete has helped me gain a bigger perspective on how to balance the myriad of responsibilities in my life during a time of major transition, while still keeping my health as a priority. He helped me see the big picture through the initial upheaval of covid-19. Throughout our sessions I found the motivation and direction I needed to move forward with my health, family, and career goals. Pete was an incredible guide and resource for how to build my own business despite the obstacles. Though this time has been filled with challenges, it has also been a time of growth and transformation for me. With Pete's guidance, I figured out what my ultimate life vision is, my goals, and what I need to focus on to get there. That's the key to real, sustainable change. Having someone on your team is life-changing!"
-- Jessica C. Ob-Gyn Nurse, married, mother of two, Virginia
"Peter was an invaluable mentor and advisor during my 4 years as co-founder of a digital health startup. He coached me in meaningful ways on the business and leadership challenges in running an early-stage venture including: how to build a team, agile product management, fundraising, partnering, and strategy."
--Marguerite R. Engineer, Product Manager, Entrepreneur and Executive, California
"During my coaching partnership w/ Peter, I felt very valued and understood by how deeply he listens. I benefited from the unique and refreshing guided mindfulness practice he introduced me to, and he also suggested some self-guided activities between sessions that helped increase my self-awareness and create a more empowering self-narrative. Peter's active listening and depth of exploration into my thoughts about my goals helped me to have valuable insights into underlying root causes that had previously been barriers to my success in sustaining behavior change. This literally resulted in liberating paradigm shifts for me. My perfectionistic tendencies often result in downplaying my accomplishments, but Peter's reminders to savor my successes were very validating and helped me to cultivate self-compassion and celebrate my achievements, resulting in more happiness in the present moment and beginning to create more much-needed balance in my life."
-- Jennifer E. Professional Actuarial Auditor and volunteer addiction counselor, Tennessee
Best Life and Wellness Coaching
299 2nd St San Francisco, California
Call for store hours.